Have you ever found yourself in a conversation that left you both heartbroken and frustrated?

I did recently.

I was talking to a Hebrew Israelite brother who was convinced that salvation wasn’t for everyone. He referenced the story of the Canaanite woman in Matthew 15:23-28, the one where Jesus said He was sent only to the lost sheep of Israel. I said that wasn’t true and that Jesus was testing the woman’s faith and even pointed out how Jesus admired her faith, saying, “Great is thy faith,” I explained this foreshadowed salvation being offered to the Gentiles. He argued that Jesus healed her daughter but she didn’t receive salvation. His mind was made up. Even when I shared the story of Cornelius in Acts 10:34-48, a Roman Gentile who was filled with the Holy Ghost and baptized, and Peter’s realization that “God is no respecter of persons,”

He still wouldn’t budge.

As much as I wanted to keep debating, my spirit was weary. I ended up doing what I should have done first—I talked to God about it. I poured out my heart, saying to Him,

“Lord, it’s hard enough trying to keep Your commandment to love others as we love ourselves when some of us are downright hateful—how can we keep this command while condemning others to hell? How can some of us miss the goal of Your instruction? Love!”

I prayed for that brother, for his eyes to be opened to the truth. Then, as I pulled into a store parking lot, the Lord put a song in my spirit—“Lord, I Lift Your Name on High.” I hadn’t heard that song in years, but I knew what God was telling me:

Keep your eyes on Me.

It’s easy to get caught up in proving a point, especially when it comes to defending the truth of God’s Word. But the goal of God’s instruction has never been about winning arguments—it’s always been about love.

“Now the goal of our instruction is love that comes from a pure heart, a good conscience, and a sincere faith.” — 1 Timothy 1:5

Love is the measure. If we’re not loving others—especially those who don’t see things the way we do—then we’ve missed the whole point. Jesus didn’t just preach love; He lived it, even when people rejected Him.

It can be heartbreaking when someone rejects the truth you share, especially when it’s so clear in Scripture. But Jesus Himself faced this constantly. Even His own people rejected Him, and still, He loved them to the point of death.

“He came to His own, and His own did not receive Him.” — John 1:11

Jesus didn’t stop loving those who rejected Him, and neither can we. Sometimes loving others means letting go of the need to convince them and trusting God to work on their hearts in His timing.

Our job is to plant the seed and pray that God makes it grow.

If we truly love others, we won’t just debate them; we’ll pray for them. We’ll intercede, asking God to soften their hearts and open their eyes. That’s what Jesus did, even for those who crucified Him:

“Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do.” — Luke 23:34

Praying for those who reject the truth not only keeps our hearts tender but also keeps us aligned with God’s heart.

He wants them to come to repentance even more than we do.

When the Lord brought that old song, “Lord, I Lift Your Name on High,” to my spirit, I knew He was reminding me of my real focus. Not the argument. Not the frustration. Just Him.

“Fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.” — Hebrews 12:2

When we focus on Jesus—His love, His patience, His truth—it shifts our hearts from winning debates to winning souls. It reminds us that it’s not about being right; it’s about being loving.

How can we love others when they refuse the truth?

Pray for them sincerely. Not just that they’ll see things your way, but that they’ll encounter God’s love.

Speak the truth, but season it with grace. Remember, even correction must come from a place of love, not superiority.

Leave the results to God. Our role is obedience in sharing the truth, not forcing the outcome.

Keep your eyes on Jesus. The more we focus on Him, the less we’ll be thrown off by rejection.

The world is filled with people who won’t accept God’s Word, but our response shouldn’t be frustration or bitterness—it should be love. Because love never fails, even when words do.

Say This Prayer With Me 🙏🏾:

Heavenly Father,

Thank You for Your love, mercy, and faithfulness. I humbly ask for forgiveness where I have fallen short. Fill me with Your Spirit and help me to live a life that reflects Your love and holiness.

Guide my steps with wisdom and discernment, and help me trust You fully. Open the eyes and hearts of those who do not yet see Your truth, and use me as a vessel of Your love.

When I grow weary, remind me that Your grace is sufficient. I fix my eyes on Jesus and trust in Your promises.

In Jesus’ name, I pray,

Amen.